💞 Love or Lockdown? When Cupid Starts Acting Like a Correctional Officer 😅🔐💘

So you fell in love. 🦋 Butterflies, heart eyes, 😍 playlists full of sappy songs, and maybe even a shared toothbrush (ew, but okay). But somewhere between “I adore you” and “I need to know your location 24/7,” things got clingy. 🤔 Like, Velcro on a wool sweater clingy. 😬 Welcome to the wild world of emotional possession 👹 where love stops being a warm hug and starts feeling like a chokehold with glitter gloves🧤🎀💀 🚨Signs You’re in a Love Lockdown: They say “I love you” but mean “I own you.” 🧿 You feel guilty for wanting alone time. Like, even just to poop in peace. 🚽📵 Your phone buzzes every 3 minutes with “Where are you?” texts. 🕵️‍♀️📱 You start hiding parts of yourself just to keep the peace. 🫥🧩 You’ve started narrating your day like a hostage video: “Hi babe, it’s 3:07 PM. I’m at Target. I’m buying socks. Please don’t be mad.” 🎥🧦😩 🛠️How to Cope Without Losing Your Sanity (or Your Spotify Password): 1. Name it to tame it: If it feels like control disguised as care, call it what it is: insecurity in a trench coat. 🕶️🧥 Bonus points if it’s accessorized with guilt trips and passive aggressive sighs.😫😤 2. Boundaries are sexy: Repeat after me: “No, I will not FaceTime you from the grocery store.” 🛒📵 You’re not a contestant on Surveillance Island. You’re a whole human with a right to roam.🧐 3. Mirror check: Ask yourself: Am I doing this too? Possession can be contagious. 😳🪞 If you’re tracking their location like a CIA agent with a crush, it’s time to log out emotionally.📵 4. Therapy Trumps Text fights: A counselor, priest or support group can help untangle the spaghetti of emotions better than your group chat. 🍝🧠 Your bestie might be wise, but seeking relationship advice from a friend is like asking your dog if your outfit looks good; loyal feedback, zero objectivity 🐶💔👗. 5. Exit if needed: If love feels like a hostage situation, it’s okay to leave. You’re not a character in a Lifetime movie. 🏃‍♀️🚪 You deserve a love story, not a psychological thriller. 🎬 💡Reframe the Narrative: Love isn’t about owning someone, it’s about honoring them. It’s not “You complete me,” it’s “You complement me.” Like fries and ketchup. Or memes and midnight scrolling. 🍟📲 Healthy love says: “I see you, I celebrate you, and I trust you to be you, even when I’m not watching.” 👀💖 🙏 Here's a prayer for spiritual clarity, emotional intelligence, and just enough sass to guard your heart 🛡 💘 Divine Matchmaker, You see the heart behind my humor, the longing beneath my laughter. Teach me to recognize love that’s holy, not just hot. Let me not confuse chemistry with covenant, or attention with intention. Give me eyes to see red flags even when they’re dressed in roses. Give me ears to hear Your whisper over their sweet nothings. And give me the strength to walk away from what drains me, even if it texts “good morning” consistently. May I be led by peace, not pressure; by truth, not trauma; by Your Spirit, not my situationship. And when the right love comes, may it feel like home, not a test. May it honor my calling, not compete with it. May it be rooted in You, blooming like the lotus: untouched by the mud, radiant in the light. In Jesus' Precious Name, Amen. Ameen. Ase. So be it. 🕊️💌 🌸 Love & Light Affirmation: "I am worthy of love that liberates, not love that limits. I release all cords of control and reclaim my joy, my peace, and my power. I choose connection, not captivity." 📚 Sources: Hooks, Bell. All About Love: New Visions. Harper Perennial, 2000. Perel, Esther. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Harper, 2006. Catechism of the Catholic Church. Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1994. Psychology Today. “Emotional Dependency and Attachment Styles.” Accessed 2025.